I was riding down on an elevator with several other people yesterday. The door opened on 4. A really pretty woman in her late 20s got on and pressed 3. She looked great in dress slacks, blazer and classic black pumps.
"I'm a little embarrassed because you're seeing that I'm only going down one floor. But, the stairway is so loud when you're wearing heels. You guys wouldn't understand."
At least one of us did.
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
Tuesday, August 20, 2013
Diane von Furstenberg Renna Wool & Silk Dress
I love this dress.
If you look at the bottom of the picture, you'll see a little "play video" indicator. The dress is so pretty. I love the way it looks and moves in the little video. The model in the video has great classic pumps and a perfect little clutch. It's a great look.
The page shows the usual kinds of information about the dress.
There's also a section called Size & Fit. That section says
Model shown is 5'10" (177cm) wearing US size 4.
So, I guess that's good to know, but a part of me wonders how many women are 5'10" and wear size 4. In the back of my mind, I also wondered if including the model's size info is a subtle way of saying "it's a gorgeous dress but, nyah, nyah, it will never look that good on you."
If you look at the bottom of the picture, you'll see a little "play video" indicator. The dress is so pretty. I love the way it looks and moves in the little video. The model in the video has great classic pumps and a perfect little clutch. It's a great look.
The page shows the usual kinds of information about the dress.
There's also a section called Size & Fit. That section says
Model shown is 5'10" (177cm) wearing US size 4.
So, I guess that's good to know, but a part of me wonders how many women are 5'10" and wear size 4. In the back of my mind, I also wondered if including the model's size info is a subtle way of saying "it's a gorgeous dress but, nyah, nyah, it will never look that good on you."
Friday, August 16, 2013
Bradley Manning
Bradley Manning is a member of the US Army. He was recently convicted of several violations of the Espionage Act for passing classified information to WikiLeaks.
Testimony during his sentencing hearing revealed that Manning is transgender..
From an article on The Atlantic Wire website
In an April 24, 2010 email to his supervisor at the time, Master Sgt. Paul Adkins, Manning confessed he was transgender, and that he joined the Army, basically, to "get rid of it." The subject line was "My Problem." The email said,
I thought the author of the article did a good job of summarizing the recent revelations about Manning. Whatever I might think about Manning's actions, I sympathize with the statements in his e-mail. He wouldn't be the first person who tried to "fix" his gender identity issues by going into the military.
I'm interested to see what public reaction will be. Most coverage I've seen so far has been pretty low-key (although I have seen headlines like "Bradley Manning: Blond bombshell? Army releases photo of him as cross-dresser").
I am concerned that casual observers may conclude from Manning's story that all those who find themselves outside "normal" gender boundaries are inherently unstable, I hope that's not the case.
Testimony during his sentencing hearing revealed that Manning is transgender..
From an article on The Atlantic Wire website
In an April 24, 2010 email to his supervisor at the time, Master Sgt. Paul Adkins, Manning confessed he was transgender, and that he joined the Army, basically, to "get rid of it." The subject line was "My Problem." The email said,
This is my problem. I’ve had signs of it for a very long time. It’s caused problems within my family. I thought a career in the military would get rid of it. It’s not something I seek out for attention, and I’ve been trying very, very hard to get rid of it by placing myself in situations where it would be impossible. But, it’s not going away; it’s haunting me more and more as I get older. Now, the consequences of it are dire, at a time when it’s causing me great pain it itself…
I don't know what to do anymore, and the only "help" that seems available is severe punishment and/or getting rid of me.
I thought the author of the article did a good job of summarizing the recent revelations about Manning. Whatever I might think about Manning's actions, I sympathize with the statements in his e-mail. He wouldn't be the first person who tried to "fix" his gender identity issues by going into the military.
I'm interested to see what public reaction will be. Most coverage I've seen so far has been pretty low-key (although I have seen headlines like "Bradley Manning: Blond bombshell? Army releases photo of him as cross-dresser").
I am concerned that casual observers may conclude from Manning's story that all those who find themselves outside "normal" gender boundaries are inherently unstable, I hope that's not the case.
Wednesday, July 17, 2013
Hannah's Blog
I recently began following Hannah's blog.
Hannah is a married crossdresser with a supportive wife. Hannah's smart and upbeat writing is accompanied by her charming drawings. Definitely worth following.
Hannah is a married crossdresser with a supportive wife. Hannah's smart and upbeat writing is accompanied by her charming drawings. Definitely worth following.
Saturday, June 29, 2013
Motive and Opportunity
As the 72 people who follow this blog may or may not have noticed, I haven't posted a new entry since last August.
When someone hasn't updated their blog for a while, they usually start with a post announcing they're still around. I didn't want to do that. I've mentioned previously that my experience as a crossdresser seems to be so typical, I sometimes feel like I'm a bit of a cliche. I didn't want to act like one again in a totally expected way. However, the longer I went without posting, the more I thought it would be difficult not to acknowledge it.
So, I'm still around.
Like committing a crime, two important aspects to maintaining a blog entry are motive and opportunity. When I've had something I wanted to write, I didn't have the time; when I had time, I didn't feel like writing something.
Not much has changed. I'm married to an amazing wonderful woman who hates that I want to express myself as Linda and that I'd love to be with other people like myself occasionally. I haven't been out in forever. I miss seeing other girls.
I still struggle with getting older. The guy side of me doesn't mind too much (except for the usual middle age aches and pains), but my vision of myself as a woman is as someone who's young, beautiful and stylish. Not that I could ever really pull that off, but the best I can do these days is heavy set, slightly dowdy grandmother. I still enjoy dressing but I would love to be able to see someone prettier when I look in the mirror.
Despite my not posting, I've been following other blogs. I read Stana's and Meg's blogs every day. There are others I enjoy, too. I also want to mention how much I enjoy the comments that Pat Scalesman leaves on others' sites. Although Pat has never felt the need to create blog entries, Pat's comments are always well written, wise and kind (and often funny).
So now that I've gotten the"I'm back" post out of the way, I may go back to posting the occasional update. I like having a place for my random thoughts and I appreciate it when a reader acknowledges something I've written and adds a comment.
When someone hasn't updated their blog for a while, they usually start with a post announcing they're still around. I didn't want to do that. I've mentioned previously that my experience as a crossdresser seems to be so typical, I sometimes feel like I'm a bit of a cliche. I didn't want to act like one again in a totally expected way. However, the longer I went without posting, the more I thought it would be difficult not to acknowledge it.
So, I'm still around.
Like committing a crime, two important aspects to maintaining a blog entry are motive and opportunity. When I've had something I wanted to write, I didn't have the time; when I had time, I didn't feel like writing something.
Not much has changed. I'm married to an amazing wonderful woman who hates that I want to express myself as Linda and that I'd love to be with other people like myself occasionally. I haven't been out in forever. I miss seeing other girls.
I still struggle with getting older. The guy side of me doesn't mind too much (except for the usual middle age aches and pains), but my vision of myself as a woman is as someone who's young, beautiful and stylish. Not that I could ever really pull that off, but the best I can do these days is heavy set, slightly dowdy grandmother. I still enjoy dressing but I would love to be able to see someone prettier when I look in the mirror.
Despite my not posting, I've been following other blogs. I read Stana's and Meg's blogs every day. There are others I enjoy, too. I also want to mention how much I enjoy the comments that Pat Scalesman leaves on others' sites. Although Pat has never felt the need to create blog entries, Pat's comments are always well written, wise and kind (and often funny).
So now that I've gotten the"I'm back" post out of the way, I may go back to posting the occasional update. I like having a place for my random thoughts and I appreciate it when a reader acknowledges something I've written and adds a comment.
Sunday, August 5, 2012
A little Linda time today
My family was out for a few hours today and I had the house to myself for the first time in months.
I took the opportunity to don my cute little lacy dress and gold sparkly platform pumps. Felt so good to be dressed (it's probably been a few weeks but seems like forever). I shaved my legs yesterday and they looked so cute in my dress and heels.
Now this is definitely not a daytime outfit but I don't know when I'll have a chance to wear it at night. So, I put on a dark t-shirt and shorts over my dress, put my heels in a little bag and walked over to the car. After a few blocks, I pulled over, took my t-shirt and shorts off and put my heels back on. Heaven.
I drove around for a little while. In this outfit and without makeup, there was no way I was going to go anywhere where people could really see me. Still, I had an urge to get out of the car and go for a walk (partially because it's fun to walk outside and partially because I wanted to see how well I could walk in these 5 inch plus heels).
I found a deserted parking lot with large dark windows. I got out and walked a bit. I could see myself reflected in the windows and between the windows poor reflection and my own ability to self-delude, I thought I looked ok. 20 pounds lighter and some shapewear would have made things even better, but I still enjoyed myself.
Wish I could go out tonight in this outfit to one of the t-friendly places in the area (there are now 2 about 5 miles from my house). Unfortunately, everyone will be back soon so I won't be going out. It's been a while since I've been out with other girls. I miss it.
By the way, I did ok with the heels.
I took the opportunity to don my cute little lacy dress and gold sparkly platform pumps. Felt so good to be dressed (it's probably been a few weeks but seems like forever). I shaved my legs yesterday and they looked so cute in my dress and heels.
Now this is definitely not a daytime outfit but I don't know when I'll have a chance to wear it at night. So, I put on a dark t-shirt and shorts over my dress, put my heels in a little bag and walked over to the car. After a few blocks, I pulled over, took my t-shirt and shorts off and put my heels back on. Heaven.
I drove around for a little while. In this outfit and without makeup, there was no way I was going to go anywhere where people could really see me. Still, I had an urge to get out of the car and go for a walk (partially because it's fun to walk outside and partially because I wanted to see how well I could walk in these 5 inch plus heels).
I found a deserted parking lot with large dark windows. I got out and walked a bit. I could see myself reflected in the windows and between the windows poor reflection and my own ability to self-delude, I thought I looked ok. 20 pounds lighter and some shapewear would have made things even better, but I still enjoyed myself.
Wish I could go out tonight in this outfit to one of the t-friendly places in the area (there are now 2 about 5 miles from my house). Unfortunately, everyone will be back soon so I won't be going out. It's been a while since I've been out with other girls. I miss it.
By the way, I did ok with the heels.
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
Girl Talk
As I was trying to get some work done today, I heard the director I report to talking with another woman on our extended team.
I like our director a lot. She's very bright, friendly and easy to talk with. She's only been with our group for a little over 5 weeks and has had to learn a lot about this new area. She picks things up quickly and consistently has good suggestions for how to improve work product.
I also love the way she dresses. She's in her late forties and dresses just right for the business casual atmosphere at the office. Women in management positions have to dress a little nicer than casual in a business casual environment and she hits the look just right. She usually wears dresses or skirts but her outfits are bright and fun. She dresses appropriately for her age and position but she seems to have fun with her outfits. She's in good shape and her outfits highlight that she is but never in an obvious way.
The woman our director was talking to is a very smart and nice woman but someone who I think I would be more like if I were a woman. A little shy, a tiny bit awkward (not horribly so, just not smooth), a very sweet and smart woman engineer. She wears mostly skirts and suits and pumps. Very much the way I would dress.
Today our director is wearing a floral dress that comes to just above her knees, She's wearing a cream colored blouse and wedge slingbacks in a kind of taupe / lightened coffee color. She looks just great.
She was complimenting the engineer on her cute shoes, admiring how nice they looked and remarking how the heel wasn't too high so they would be comfortable.
They talked a little bit more about their respective outfits. I wish I could have joined them. As a guy, I pretty much have to pretend to be clueless about what women are wearing. I would love to join in and be able to tell them how nice they look and say how much I admire a certain outfit or accessory.
Instead, I wind up talking about the weather or the White Sox (who are having a surprisingly not awful season, by the way).
I really like being a guy most of the time but it would be nice to live more comfortably in my two worlds.
I like our director a lot. She's very bright, friendly and easy to talk with. She's only been with our group for a little over 5 weeks and has had to learn a lot about this new area. She picks things up quickly and consistently has good suggestions for how to improve work product.
I also love the way she dresses. She's in her late forties and dresses just right for the business casual atmosphere at the office. Women in management positions have to dress a little nicer than casual in a business casual environment and she hits the look just right. She usually wears dresses or skirts but her outfits are bright and fun. She dresses appropriately for her age and position but she seems to have fun with her outfits. She's in good shape and her outfits highlight that she is but never in an obvious way.
The woman our director was talking to is a very smart and nice woman but someone who I think I would be more like if I were a woman. A little shy, a tiny bit awkward (not horribly so, just not smooth), a very sweet and smart woman engineer. She wears mostly skirts and suits and pumps. Very much the way I would dress.
Today our director is wearing a floral dress that comes to just above her knees, She's wearing a cream colored blouse and wedge slingbacks in a kind of taupe / lightened coffee color. She looks just great.
She was complimenting the engineer on her cute shoes, admiring how nice they looked and remarking how the heel wasn't too high so they would be comfortable.
They talked a little bit more about their respective outfits. I wish I could have joined them. As a guy, I pretty much have to pretend to be clueless about what women are wearing. I would love to join in and be able to tell them how nice they look and say how much I admire a certain outfit or accessory.
Instead, I wind up talking about the weather or the White Sox (who are having a surprisingly not awful season, by the way).
I really like being a guy most of the time but it would be nice to live more comfortably in my two worlds.
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