Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Incident On An Elevator

I was riding down on an elevator with several other people yesterday.  The door opened on 4.  A really pretty woman in her late 20s got on and pressed 3.  She looked great in dress slacks, blazer and classic black pumps.

"I'm a little embarrassed because you're seeing that I'm only going down one floor.  But, the stairway is so loud when you're wearing heels.  You guys wouldn't understand."

At least one of us did.

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Diane von Furstenberg Renna Wool & Silk Dress

I love this dress.

If you look at the bottom of the picture, you'll see a little "play video" indicator.  The dress is so pretty. I love the way it looks and moves in the little video.  The model in the video has great classic pumps and a perfect little clutch.  It's a great look.

The page shows the usual kinds of information about the dress.

There's also a section called Size & Fit.  That section says
Model shown is 5'10" (177cm) wearing US size 4.

So, I guess that's good to know, but a part of me wonders how many women are 5'10" and wear size 4.  In the back of my mind, I also wondered if including the model's size info is a subtle way of saying "it's a gorgeous dress but, nyah, nyah, it will never look that good on you."

Friday, August 16, 2013

Bradley Manning

Bradley Manning is a member of the US Army.  He was recently convicted of several violations of the Espionage Act for passing classified information to WikiLeaks.

Testimony during his sentencing hearing revealed that Manning is transgender.. 

From an article on The Atlantic Wire website

In an April 24, 2010 email to his supervisor at the time, Master Sgt. Paul Adkins, Manning confessed he was transgender, and that he joined the Army, basically, to "get rid of it."  The subject line was "My Problem." The email said,
This is my problem. I’ve had signs of it for a very long time. It’s caused problems within my family. I thought a career in the military would get rid of it. It’s not something I seek out for attention, and I’ve been trying very, very hard to get rid of it by placing myself in situations where it would be impossible. But, it’s not going away; it’s haunting me more and more as I get older. Now, the consequences of it are dire, at a time when it’s causing me great pain it itself…
I don't know what to do anymore, and the only "help" that seems available is severe punishment and/or getting rid of me.

I thought the author of the article did a good job of summarizing the recent revelations about Manning. Whatever I might think about Manning's actions, I sympathize with the statements in his e-mail.  He wouldn't be the first person who tried to "fix" his gender identity issues by going into the military.

I'm interested to see what public reaction will be.  Most coverage I've seen so far has been pretty low-key (although I have seen headlines like "Bradley Manning: Blond bombshell? Army releases photo of him as cross-dresser").

I am concerned that casual observers may conclude from Manning's story that all those who find themselves outside  "normal" gender boundaries are inherently unstable,   I hope that's not the case.


Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Hannah's Blog

I recently began following Hannah's blog.

Hannah is a married crossdresser with a supportive wife.  Hannah's smart and upbeat writing is accompanied by her charming drawings.  Definitely worth following.

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Motive and Opportunity

As the 72 people who follow this blog may or may not have noticed, I haven't posted a new entry since last August.

When someone hasn't updated their blog for a while, they usually start with a post announcing they're still around.  I didn't want to do that.  I've mentioned previously that my experience as a crossdresser seems to be so typical, I sometimes feel like I'm a bit of a cliche.  I didn't want to act like one again in a totally expected way.  However, the longer I went without posting, the more I thought it would be difficult not to acknowledge it.

So, I'm still around.

Like committing a crime, two important aspects to maintaining a blog entry are motive and opportunity.   When I've had something I wanted to write, I didn't have the time;  when I had time, I didn't feel like writing something.

Not much has changed.  I'm married to an amazing wonderful woman who hates that I want to express myself as Linda and that I'd love to be with other people like myself occasionally.  I haven't been out in forever.  I miss seeing other girls.

I still struggle with getting older.  The guy side of me doesn't mind too much (except for the usual middle age aches and pains), but my vision of myself as a woman is as someone who's young, beautiful and stylish.  Not that I could ever really pull that off, but the best I can do these days is heavy set, slightly dowdy grandmother. I still enjoy dressing but I would love to be able to see someone prettier when I look in the mirror.

Despite my not posting, I've been following other blogs.  I read Stana's and Meg's blogs every day.  There are others I enjoy, too.  I also want to mention how much I enjoy the comments that Pat Scalesman leaves on others' sites.  Although Pat has never felt the need to create blog entries, Pat's comments are always well written, wise and kind (and often funny).

So now that I've gotten the"I'm back" post out of the way, I may go back to posting the occasional update.   I like having a place for my random thoughts and I appreciate it when a reader acknowledges something I've written and adds a comment.